When you have 6 kids from the ages of 19 down to 3 life is never ever still. I honestly thought when they became teenagers that they would,ya know maybe need me less. HA! Parenting teens is hard you guys! I’ve been doing it for the last 6 years and just as I get one through a tough phase the other one comes beebopping into it. I think “ok I just went through this phase with their older sibling I’ve got this” and then BAM they add a new spin to it.
I’ve always raised my kids with encouraging them to have their own opinions and values AS LONG as they were respectful of the other people in the family. It’s important I think because well…they’re going to grow up someday and be an adult and most likely will not always have the same views as us. Some days though,it’s like an episode of Family Ties where Alex and Mallory and the parents are all in an argument.I probably just dated myself there but,that’s what I always think of. At least it makes me smile in the midst of the “how can you even think like that?” debates.
Then there are the days when the teens don’t agree with how I’m parenting the littles(ages 6 and 3). HA! Those are always fun days. Listen here kiddo,I pushed these 2 adorable creatures out of my hoohaw I can raise them how I feel fit. I mean I didn’t screw up the olders TOO badly.
That being said for the most part my teens are awesome young adults just trying to navigate their way through young adulthood,which is terrifying at best. My 17 year old has been working non stop at Shopko now for the last 3 months. Some mornings his days start at 3 am!
My 19 and 16 year old are living in an apartment the next town over so my 16 year old can stay at the homeschool parent partnership he has been at for the last 5 years. He found his passion for acting at this school taking him from it would kill him. He has the lead as Aladdin this year and he gets to sing! For this arrangement to work it takes a lot on my 16 year olds end to make it work. He must still go off the homeschool lesson plan I make for him as well as pass his tests,make it to classes,rehearse his lines,and learn how to cook for himself. My 19 year old oversees him and is also searching for a job within walking distance of their apartment to help with the bills. The 16 year old comes home for the weekend almost every week and we go over what he has learned and you know spend time with him since we are still his legal guardians. And I miss both of them terribly.
My 14 year old after years of being homeschooled decided this year they wanted to dive head in to 8th grade public school! I applaud them for that because well 8th grade as a new kid SUCKS! They have taken the challenge head on and are not only doing well in classes,but has a circle of friends.
And me?I am here when there’s the rare chance they need an ear. I have found they talk less as teens but man when they do open up some of the best discussions ever happen. I love watching how different all 4 are. Now when they need a ride somewhere thats a whole other story. Did I mention not a single one drives?
Yes they need you when they’re little but I’m finding they need you even more when they’re teens. You’re going to cry over somethings,be left bewildered over others,and sometimes just beam with pride. Even among the chaos, I know at this moment they are all doing their best and that makes me happy and proud of them. Yup my teens are pretty awesome people….and of course now since I typed this I guarantee you one of them will give me a WTF moment today,because ya know…..that’s life!